flirting or cheating?

this is actually one of the bulletins posted on my friendster account. its an interesting piece.check it out.


Here's how guys tend to define the
murkier areas of fidelity. Don't like
it? Then talk about it now before he
steps across a line he didn't know
existed.

* Flirting or Cheating? Looking at
another woman?

It's one thing if his tongue drops
to the floor in your presence; that's
just plain disrespectful (though 80
percent of men have admitted to looking
at other women even with their wives or
girlfriends around). But cheating?
Hardly. Men think there's a huge
difference between thinking and acting.
"We have two sides--the committed
husband/boyfriend and the 'check out
the
hottie' side. In men, the committed
wins
out, but the checker always exists,"
says one man who responded to the
Harris
poll I used when researching the book.
(And ladies, don't even try to tell me
you haven't had more than a couple of
thoughts and conversations about
whether
McDreamy or McSteamy is hotter.)

* Flirting or Cheating? E-mailing an
ex?

The e-mail exchange per se isn't a
cheat (depending on exactly what's
exchanged, of course). But, for many
people, any contact beyond a few truly
platonic and innocent "just catching
up"
messages is a relationship-killer-not
because of the act itself, but because
of the potential act that may follow.
About 60 percent of guys consider
dinner
and drinks with an ex as cheating.
Looking her up online? Only 20 percent
of us would classify that as a
relationship no-no.

* Flirting or Cheating? Hanging out
with the women at work?

Here's the real relationship
danger zone: About 50 percent of guys
consider having dinner and drinks with
an attractive co-worker as cheating.
But
the more troubling stat for you may be
this one: One in five men says that he
secretly loves his platonic (for now)
coworker. Just look at Jim and Pam on
The Office, and you know exactly what
I'm talking about. That's not meant to
scare you-more just to make sure you
keep your eyes open (as if you don't
already) and intentions honorable.

* Flirting or Cheating? Kissing
another woman?

Some guys may try to wiggle out of
a drunken kiss with a stranger (or
coworker, in the cloakroon, at the
Christmas party) as a one-time-only
event. But the true test about whether
a
guy thinks something is cheating is
whether he'd be ok with the situation
reversed. Guys don't want their women
exchanging lip balm (or any thing else
physical) with another guy, and nearly
90 percent of guys agree that their own
drunken hook-up with a stranger is
indeed off-limits.

* Flirting or Cheating? Going to a
strip club?

The good news for those of you who
are anti-exotic dancer: Half of men
think that visiting a strip club is
cheating. The other half? Going to a
strip club is like going to a sporting
event-there's lots of entertainment,
lots of excitement, and lots of
interest
in watching the most talented players
in
action. In the poll, many men said that
they feel there's no harm in
once-in-a-while visits since there's no
emotional attachment and only
temporary,
artificial physical attraction.
"Sometimes, to be blunt about it," one
man responded in the poll, "it's just a
bit of art appreciation, and it's nice
to see another woman naked."